Raising Faith Strong Kids in a Secular World

Raising Faith Strong Kids in a Secular World

Raising Christian Children in a Secular World


I’m sure you’ve heard statements like these: Christianity is irrational, intolerant, antiscience, and based on an irrelevant ancient book. 

What if your child came to you and said that?  How would you respond if your child came home one day and told you that, as far as they were concerned, Christianity is the dumbest, lamest, most ridiculous religion there is?

Would your heart ache to see that your child, who once went to church every Sunday with you, is now a skeptic? One who is now armed with a scientific and philosophical answer to everything? 

And all you have is faith. A faith you know is so real and true but no knowledge of the answers your child desperately needs.

Do you have compelling answers to the secular questions your child would face at school, college, or on social media? This blog post serves as a wake-up call for parents, grandparents, and church leaders to take deliberate action in guiding their children toward unwavering faith.

It highlights the urgency for strategic preparation, equipping our kids with the essential skills to confidently and eloquently navigate the complex tapestry of secular worldviews.

Let’s dive right in.

Do You Have Compelling Answers?

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Your child is bombarded all day long with a plethora of conflicting messages from sources such as culture, TV, social media, friends, and school. They encounter diverse opinions on topics like sexuality, God, gender, morality, and truth. 

Amidst this information overload, our young ones often question the relevance of their Christian faith in the modern world. They grapple with applying biblical teachings to contemporary matters, including culture, gender, identity, and life challenges.

 In light of this prevailing confusion, we must help our kiddos capture all the fundaments of their spiritual walk as early as possible. 

Establishing the Basics of Your Child’s Faith.

Most of us would agree that mathematics is complex. It is in-depth, multi-faceted, multi-dimensional, and has many applications. Despite its complexity, educators have distilled the basics of mathematics — addition, subtraction, multiplication, and division—  and have devised strategic methods to combine the relevant dose for each level.

Various educational institutions have craetively curated an apt curriculum to dispense the fundamentals of this complex subject from as early as kindergarten — gradually increasing complexity and depth as the students progress — through higher education.

Similarly, the Christian faith is like Mathematics. It is multi-dimensional, multi-layered, in-depth,  complex, and has vast applications in this world. In this faith journey, pastors, parents, and bible teachers must intentionally capture the fundamentals of the Christian faith and dispense them in age-appropriate measures.

We must intentionally consider the depth, variety, dimensions, and applications of sermon, bible study curriculums and family discussions so as to present to God, youth who are thoroughly furnished and eventually able to navigate the secular complexities of today.

As Paul advised us, we must help our children press forward in their spiritual understanding in these six fundamentals dimensions: 

  1. Knowledge of God and Jesus, His son  ( Proverbs 9:10)
  2. Knowledge of themselves ( identity)  in light of who Christ is ( Psalm 49:20, 1 Peter 2:9)
    • Our Oneness with Christ
    • Our positional advantage
  3. Understanding of their place in God’s program ( Luke 4: 16, Hebrew 10:7)
  4. Understand the mysteries and principles of the kingdom —faith, prayer, giving, hard work, thanksgiving, fasting. (Matthew 13:11).
  5. Understand the world of men and the cosmos ( Secular issues, Psalm 115:16).
  6. They must know their adversary, the devil: many Christians, out of ignorance, gaps in spiritual upbringing, or for many other reasons, ignore topics about the devil or demons. However,  Jesus talked about the devil in the Gospels. He called him a thief and exposed his character as the destroyer (John 10:10). Peter also goes forward to tell us how to treat the devil. We must resist him steadfastly and violently. Not gently or passively. ( 1 Peter 5:8)

    A featherweight faith in our youth has caused as many as 61% of previously church-active teenagers to become spiritually disengaged by the time they are in their 20s. They soon become passive in Bible reading, church attendance, and prayer. This sliding back in faith is, to a large extent, a poor reflection of the church and parent gaps in spiritual understanding.

    As a parent, I often ponder whether I am nurturing my children with a faith resilient enough to withstand heartbreaks, disappointments, and social media backlash. I wonder if they can confidently and intelligently defend their beliefs in the face of conflicting worldviews when making life choices.

    That’s why I challenge you and me to be prudent by helping them make sense of their faith. A prudent person sees trouble coming and ducks; a simpleton walks in blindly and is clobbered according to Proverbs 27:12  

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    Why Must We Help Our Kiddos Make Sense of Their Faith?

    The world is rapidly becoming a confused place and we have just a short period to help our children make sense of their faith.  we will reap the following benefits when we prioritize spiritual knowledge. 

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    Investing in raising confident children today will  yield tremendous benefits, including:

    • Your child’s faith will be enriched as they grow in their knowledge of God.

    • Your kids will learn how the world works and how they fit into the world.

    • Your child will be equipped with critical thinking skills to analyze secular issues and will think clearly.

    • They will know how to apply their faith and develop robust faith to withstand life’s storms.

    • To tackle the intellectual challenges of their Christian faith and help them see the reason for their faith through different lenses. 

    • To have more confidence to be the light and witness in the dark world.

    • They will not easily fall prey to false doctrines, opinions, and propaganda promoted by media and TV.
    •  You’ll bond with your child in the process.

    • Most importantly, your child’s life will honor the Lord.

     Read Hefzibah’s 18 days Mental battle.

    I don’t know any Christian parent who doesn’t desire this for their child. But we all know it takes time, diligence, and God’s continuous help. Even now, I pray that we have eyes to perceive God’s heart for our generation and the strength to take the daily small steps he nudges us to.


    Kids will learn what they will regardless. 

    Yes, it’s true that regardless of your training, a child will ultimately decide what he does.

    However, just as you wouldn’t allow a child in your care to wander into dangerous traffic, doing your due diligence in nurturing their faith is essential.

    This involves studying, training them, and fostering an environment where their curiosity is nurtured with the truth. Investing time and effort early on increases the likelihood of them becoming steadfast, strong followers of Christ.

    In summary, the struggles many of us parents faced as teenagers appear trivial compared to the complex issues our children are enmeshed in today. 

    It isn’t enough to teach them bits and pieces of the Christian faith; we must diligently teach the fundamentals of the spiritual life and intentionally build their confidence as they grow up.

    Line upon line, precept upon precept like a wise builder, ensuring they are equipped in their knowledge of God, in their identity, in understanding mysteries & principles of the kingdom, understanding of man and secular issues as well as in grasping the devil’s strategies.

    Through knowledge we can bolster ours and our kids’ faith. As we allow our assumptions to be challenged, our perspectives broadened, and our world understanding deepened.

    This personal growth will carve out a robust spiritual path helping them navigate the complexities of life and together we’ll discover irrefutable truths to current issues.

    God bless you and thank you so much for reading.

    In the next blog post, I’ll share the practical ways to support our children’s faith in a busy world. 

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